Maui is for Lovers
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What first attracted each of you…
We met as older, previously married, single people in our 50s.
I believe that TIMING was and continues to be one of the most important factors.
We were both looking for long-term romantic relationships. We met online @ www.OurTime.com – online dating for the 50+ Singles.
We had each previously ended relationships that were not good for us
and were ready to find “The One”.
Once we started communicating,
it wasn’t long until we agreed to meet.
That first meeting went well, and we ended up at a restaurant
talking for a couple of hours.
For our second date,
Roy offered to cook me dinner at his house.
I felt totally comfortable with this and agreed.
I was welcomed with Salmon Stir Fry and chocolate dipped strawberries.
There may have also been flowers, but I don’t remember for sure.
I guess you could say our second date never ended . . .and…
here we are today.
What was the ‘glue’ that made it stick?
Basic values. We have similar work and family ethics. We have each been at our current employer for over 30 years! We are loyal to others, each other and ourselves. We share common sense. We share most beliefs. We love our friends and families. We each have two children from first marriages and together we have five grandchildren with hopefully more to come because we each have one child with no children yet. We love each other’s children and grandchildren as our own. Last summer when Roy’s daughter and son in law asked me if their kids could call me Grandma – I was elated!!! Especially because our relationship (with his daughter) started out a bit rocky over three years ago. We are now Grandpa Roy and Grandma Laurie to all five Grandchildren (three his and two mine).
Any challenges that had to be overcome that
Ultimately made your love and appreciation stronger?
As previously mentioned, Roy’s daughter, Joanne, wasn’t happy with me at all. So much so that she voiced her option to others who communicated to Roy about it. While this could have been a deal breaker and an ending to a potential relationship, I believe the way we each handled the situation made our love stronger. Roy’s initial choice was to not even let me know, but after few weeks, I got the hint and asked him point blank if Joanne had a problem with me and he admitted it. My way to handle it (after being quite hurt) was to go about things as if nothing was wrong. I was sensitive to her feelings, but I did not change who I was. Roy was very supportive, and I believe it was best to just be myself. After a time, all was good – even better I believe because it didn’t blow out of proportion and could have had long-lasting affects, which it has not. Another challenge was me selling my larger home and downsizing to a smaller house. For about two years, we were living in my house in town where we work and, on the weekends, living at Roy’s in a nearby smaller town. Spokane, WA is considered a border town and Roy’s house is in Post Falls, Idaho – just 30 minutes away. Maintaining two houses (in two states) was wearing us out so we jointly (and easily) decided to sell my house in May 2017. We have never regretted that decision to downsize. We only wish we had a little more parking for our vehicles: Two cars, a truck, boat, jet ski and Roy’s large-scale RC airplanes. We really do well with the space we have though.
Goals as a couple, Personal goals… professional goals… and perhaps
Spiritual goals insights and Inspirations…
As a surviving widow (my 2nd marriage ended in death in 2012 of my husband at age 53 to cancer) and single at age 60, I am eligible to receive 70% of my deceased husband’s social security, which I have elected. That added income is enabling me to reduce my work hours and start my “ease into retirement” process. While we do not have an excess of funds, we are financially comfortable and believe we are set up to be fully retired in 3 years when Roy turns 62. At that time, we plan to spend part of the year traveling in a 5th wheel RV to warmer weather in January, February and possibly March. This is something we 100% agree on and have no reason to believe it won’t happen. In the meantime, we are enjoying our home and making some improvements that we will enjoy into the future.
I have had a couple of health challenges and Roy has been a terrific caregiver when needed. One future challenge will be our aging Mothers, but at this time, they are doing well. They both live nearby and have resources needed should their health deteriorate. Providing them additional attention will have an impact, but certainly not anything that we won’t be able to handle with each other’s endless support.
We are each other’s biggest source of support.
We each have friends outside of our lives together and we understand the need
to spend time nurturing those relationships as well as our own.
Our Must Haves:
Security, Independence and Adventure and we do indeed have all three –
both individually and together!!!
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A Luv Story Blessing Born from a Never Ending 2cd Date
Of the many mysteries of the Universe… Sacred Synchronicities
keep coming around in ways that defies the typical odds of chance.
Although ‘Chance favors the prepared mind’… yet,
Like Laurie says, “Timing is everything”.
The Time has come for these two True Soulmates
To both Be… at the right place at the Right Time.
Setting the ‘Right Intention’ is a profound motivator that goes way beyond
the subtle jesters of just sort of wishing for something…
“Life starts at 60”, and after a lifetime of meaningful relationships,
one has earned the Wisdoms of knowing what the
Heart, Mind, Body and Soul desires… and how to
appreciate this ultimate connection from the Ground of your Being.
No Truer description of Eternal Bliss could be better described by how
Your 2cd date has never ended… 😉
And now your Path has led your Hearts here to begin
your ever-present Journey of Eternal Maui Marital Bliss.
Work ethics, family values, shared beliefs and common sense,
Are all hard to find in this whirl wind life that often leaves us
dizzy with despair while seeking these qualities in others…
Knowing these attributes are not optional, is an
intrinsic nature of our character, and so,
it is with your unwavering point of focus to ‘stay the course’,
you now have steered your Hearts into the safe haven of Boundless Love.
Each Heart in your expanding family creates an ever-expanding circle of Love
that will keep going on, long after ‘our story fades’…
Like a ripple on the Pond of Life,
Your example of Unconditional Love, Joy, Compassion and Equanimity,
Will be perpetuated by your children’s, children…
Thus, making the world a better place, one hug at a time 😉
In life there is a sort of natural ‘Way’ of things.
This is where the flow of how things go, seems to be in line with
what feels like our True Nature.
This is easy to flow with when everything is going smoothly…
Yet life throws us unpredictable curve balls when we least expect it.
Suddenly our emotions are overwhelmed, and our sensitives crushed a wee bit.
The reactive response would have been to allow our egos to retaliate, defend, revenge…
and all the mindless things they do to steer our course…
Yet,
by transcending your ego, you were free to just be
True to Your True Nature… the nature of Love.
This Mindfulness builds bridges toward infinite potentials.
Security, Independence and Adventure.
Indeed, you have Mindfully created the perfect blend of all three,
both individually and together!!!
This is the formula of Transcend and Include,
Naturally flowing towards perfection.
Each one of you is a complete Being, yet together
Your One-ness becomes Boundless.
