Of all “places”, we met on Tinder,
a site full of singles fixated on “Netflix and chill”
(one night stands, and always looking for the next best thing),
and sending raunchy messages.
It’s a free site and resulted in many hilarious stories and UGH!
no way never kind of dates for me.
I had just told my friends that
I was ready to just take a break from the dating scene for a while,
one more date and then peace out!
Pete spent three weeks messaging me on Tinder off and on.
I am sure he was on other dates as was I.
He was always respectful and never inappropriate-
quite different from everyone else I had heard from.
After telling me he had chicken and veggies for dinner,
he apparently decided not to ‘chicken out’ and to ask me out.
He broke all his dating rules.
He took me to the wine bar for wine and appetizers, and
we spent 4 hours together,
far different from his 30 min and just coffee rule for first dates.
We had a great time and by date three
he broke the next rule and asked to be exclusive.
He didn’t want to date anyone else and didn’t want me to either.
He may deny it,
but he broke rule three and told me loved me a month in.
:).
No worries,
I knew I loved him too.
We have been together for two years since our first date April 8, 2016.
We come together with two unique stories and lives with their own scars and battles.
Pete raised three children on his own for 11 years after his wife passed away.
The story behind his wife is tragic and greatly affected him and his children.
When I met him,
he was still (and still is) dealing with his oldest child
and her battle scars and resulting issues.
It has been a roller coaster to say the least
and I can’t speak to any details out of respect for Pete and his family.
I will let him decide.
I spent 19 years married to an alcoholic
and finally got the courage to leave with two young children.
There were plenty of scars that had to heal
but I believe life is what we make it.
I had no career,
just my undergraduate degree in Psychology and
a 3-year work history almost two decades old.
I had been discouraged from getting my master’s degree, from working,
doing much of anything to build independence in that marriage.
It was over in 2012 on my 42nd birthday (September 30th, 2012).
I researched my best options and gave myself a month to decide,
study for the GRE/GMAT, and apply to graduate school.
I received a full-ride merit scholarship to the University of Utah’s MBA program
for the fall of 2013, I graduated with my MBA in 2015,
and started a career as a single mom of two.
Pete and I bring our pasts together in such a way that
they make us stronger as individuals and stronger as a couple.
We value our relationship, and each other in a way that
we may not have been able to without our pasts to guide us.
Pete is my best friend, lover, confidant, joy, circle of trust, builder,
and I, his.
A Luv Story Blessing – Born From Breaking All the Dating Rules
It typically is a great way to meet one’s destiny online…
On account of the countless eons and beers it would take
to meet your True Love in a bar.
And again,
‘typically’… you get what you pay for…
So,
the free site was dredging up the dregs of dating scene…
With a psychology major already in the pocket,
there was no desire
to study the lower forms of the human growth developmental stages further…
Friends were updated that Tracy was soon to exit the dating scene,
Perhaps become a monk-ett… “peace out”!
For Pets’ sake, Pete was respectful and persistent…
Yet broke all his rules of engagement.
His 30-minute max first date rule went into 4 hours of overtime
Wine instead of coffee… a sign of
thine head tumbling over thy heals…
The after date 3… the exclusive one on one desires…
then broke another of his rules and stated his love…
True Love of Soulmates defies the logic we try to apply…
When a soul senses a mate that they have had lifetimes to bond with…
There is an un-distractible attraction
that defies even our own rules and logic.
Life is not meant to be an easy ride…
If it were, we’d have wings & halos…
Each challenge lies a Divine lesson.
The bigger the challenge, the bigger the Transcendence.
What lies beyond the vail of our perception is…
ineffable…
Words can’t describe.
But the general feeling is,
once we’ve attained what we needed to in this life…
‘We are free from the pain and suffering of this life’…
Yet, those left behind
have even more pain and suffering to try to come to grips with.
When we are blessed with the ‘ultimate Transcendence’ of this life…
We painlessly return to the Grace of the collective
Oneness of it all.
Not quite the archaic projections of mythic wings and halos…
but yet
even more Divine.
The Oneness of everything there is…
We show our Love and beauty forever more to those that
open their heart to see our beauty…
Reflected on the glory of a dew drop
on a morning blooming flower.
The sparkling reflections of the moon and stars
upon a body of water.
The magnificence of a sunrise dawning the hopes and promises of a new day.
We ultimately become One with it All… and all of its beauty.
In this life,
everything that has happened… Had to.
Our challenges of the past,
becomes the building blocks and dreams of tomorrow.
Those that have had such challenging experience now know Wisdoms
that were never reachable before.
These Wisdoms create a unified appreciation for the ever-present moment…
And a depth of love that knows no boundaries.
