A Luv Story Born from the Trees
So here is our story………
Both divorced, he has 2 boys, 13 and 16. I have one boy 12 (will be 13 in September).
I have been divorced twice. The first I kind of don’t count because
it was my first love and I married young and stupid!
We both work in the lumber industry.
My company manufactures wood moldings etc,
his company owns forestry land and manufactures.
His company sells my company lumber.
I have heard his name from the owner of my company for years,
he has always raved about this wonderful guy James that he buys lumber from.
How great he is to work with and what a great guy he is.
We finally met for the first time almost 3 years ago.
We were in Phoenix at a trade show.
He came up to our booth and started talking to my boss Mark.
I saw his name tag and said
“Oh, is this the James I’ve heard such wonderful things about all these years”…..
We introduced ourselves and chit chatted for a bit and he left.
During his conversation with Mark I overheard him talking about his boys and hunting etc.
I could tell by the way he spoke about his kids that he was a great dad!
Very involved, enjoyed spending time with them.
I could tell he was very outdoorsy, loved hunting and that kind of stuff.
Mark asked him how his wife felt about all these hunting trips,
he said “You mean ex-wife?”…….
So I knew he was divorced……..
At this time I was still married to my now ex-husband.
I had been unhappy for a long time in my marriage but,
didn’t want to disrupt my son’s life by divorce……
at the time of this first meeting we were in counseling trying to work on the marriage
but,
I was pretty certain there was not going to be a fix to the issues.
I saw him again about a month later in Las Vegas at another trade show.
We said hello,
had some small talk about his recent elk hunting trip and that was about it.
About 10 months later,
my ex-husband and I had separated and were in the process of a divorce.
I saw him at an open house at his company’s office but,
I did not get to talk to him.
About 2 months or so later I saw him again at a trade show in Charlotte, NC…
He came over to the booth to say hi.
We chatted, he asked about my son, we talked about his boys….
and before I even really knew I was saying it,
I told him I was getting divorced…
There was just something I felt with him,
a comfort and a familiarity that is very hard to explain or describe……
After we had that conversation,
we had many more brief ones over the course of the two-day show.
He came by my booth several times and I went by his a couple of times….
It was pretty obvious that we were both interested.
We talked about our kids,
what our favorite things to do were, our families, how we grew up etc…
We traded business cards and said “let’s stay in touch”
and the show ended and we went our separate ways.
That was on a Wednesday…
When I got back to my office Thursday,
he had emailed me several times to my work email
over the course of the previous couple of days.
I don’t get my work email on my cell phone,
so I did not get those messages until I got back in the office.
I responded back and apologized that I had not gotten his emails
and told him I hoped he didn’t think I was blowing him off.
I gave him my cell number and said feel free to call or text any time.
30 minutes later I got a text from him.
Since that day, October 12, 2017
we have talked or at minimum texted almost every single day!
There have only been a couple of days we have not been able to talk
and only because he was up hunting in an area that had no cell service.
And when I say we talked; I mean we talked!
About EVERYTHING!
There has been this comfort level with him from day 1
that I have never, ever had with anyone in my life!
I can tell him anything,
I can talk to him about anything and everything!
We have shared many things about past marriages and relationships
that we could have done better,
that we settled for and shouldn’t have etc.
We both were at a point in our lives (we both turn 50 this year,
his was January 14th, mine is August 11th –
hence our trip to Maui was to celebrate us turning 50….
now it will be to celebrate getting married too)
that we were done settling and had both lost faith in ever finding
someone that we could truly call a partner and not have to settle for less than
what we need and want…
We talked about how our kids are first and foremost in our lives.
How important it is that we raise them to be
good, kind, considerate, responsible and productive adults.
How much we would love to be able to show them what a
good, mature, loving, caring, partnership is truly all about!!!!!
We had our first date on October 14th.
We live and hour and half apart, so we met in the middle.
We talked on the phone all the way there…
we arrived at the same time.
I got out of my car and walked toward the back of it,
he was getting out of his truck….
he walked toward me, grabbed me and pulled me in and kissed me…
The most wonderful, passionate, powerful kiss I have ever experienced in my life!
I really believe I was already falling in love with him before the kiss but,
after the kiss
I knew that this would be a love unlike anything I have ever felt in my life…
I met his family on Thanksgiving…… wonderful, caring, kind loving people! Just like him……
I met his kids around Christmas time…… great kids! I love them like my own!
He met my son in March…… they get along great!
We went to Missouri where my parents live in August
for my birthday that year
and they met him. They instantly loved him!!!!!
The kids all met shortly after that….
They get along great too! And they are all very close in age….
When we met,
he was very adamant that he did not want to get married again.
He had a very difficult divorce.
Mine on the other hand was very easy and very cooperative.
However,
after doing it twice already I was just fine with not getting married again either!
So we never really talked about it,
just that we loved each other and wanted to be in a committed relationship.
Until we went to Missouri to meet my parents.
He told me on the way out there that he had changed his mind.
That he wanted me to be his wife and that when I was ready,
he wanted to marry me….
He asked my dad permission and promised my dad he would always take care of me
and make sure I wanted for nothing…
In June this year my parents came out to visit for my nephew’s graduation.
He planned a surprise birthday party for me while they were here
and added an additional surprise to it by proposing at the same time!
We have planned to have a wedding in May with our family and close friends.
Not too big a ceremony but, very intimate and special.
Just us and the boys in the wedding party.
And now, we are going to do this in Maui,
just us and the boys on the beach!
We are so excited to have this special memory!
Roger, I truly believe in everything happens for a reason…
He was supposed to walk into my life that day in Phoenix…….
He was supposed to reappear in my life a year later when things had changed
and show me the way to what I’ve always been hoping to find……….
Here we are,
almost 2 years later and I just sold my house and moved to Red Bluff where he lives.
We are buying a new house together to raise our family!
And now we are going to get married on the beautiful beach in Hawaii with you!
How much more perfect could life get!
A Luv Story Blessing – Born from the Trees
My favorite enlightened sages states:
Everything that has happened… Had to.
When we are younger, love is like throwing the dice…
Heck,
we haven’t really got to know our own self yet,
Then someone comes along that we seem to connect with…
Someone that seems to really know the real ‘me’.
Then we find that this person is not really in love with “me”…
They are in love with a projection from their imagination
of who they want you to be…
and then we learn more about ourselves…
we learn that this person’s projection of who they want me to be…
is not me.
and ‘we’ grow from this experience and learn more about ourselves.
We gain important Wisdoms from the experiences of our hard knocks,
We simply won’t even be attracted to anything less than true love.
When the Right one comes along, we will intrinsically know it.
Each will be in real love, not in love with who they think you should be,
But in love with the real you.
Grace, Gratitude, Appreciation, Joy, Compassion and Equanimity
Spontaneously is expressed in every radiant moment.
May that passion of that first kiss keep building momentum
into a wave of love that will inspire countless others that Realization that
True Love is possible.
Just when you both were content enough to just be together…
The trip to Missouri to meet Kristina’s parents…
somehow inspired the realization that
you really are meant for each other.
As Sacred Synchronicities play out…
It turns out your Maui Minister Roger James Curley
is from Missouri too
😉
