We first met when we were in 7th grade through a friend of ours,
Kyle was walking with charles after school to go home.
We weren’t very fond of one another due to both of our stubbornness
and childlike behavior.
Soon we would come to find out freshman year at Bella Vista High School,
we would be in the same physical education class.
It was the first day of freshman PE on August 15th, 2013 when I was with Garrett,
one of charles friends as well, where we walked into the multipurpose room
to meet our teachers and meet our classmates.
Charles had the biggest smile that you could see from across the room and yelled,
“Garret!”.
He ran over and continued to discuss with our friend about
how one another were and how it’s amazing they were in the same class.
Charles looked at me and automatically put his hand out to introduce himself
and with the same goofy energetic smile said,
“Hi, I’m Charles.”
I then greeted his handshake and smiled back saying,
“Im Monica, nice to meet you.”
We talked about how we both met Garret.
We realized that we knew one another from somewhere
and discussed our friend groups when it hit us,
we had that disagreement by my house in Orangevale, CA a couple years back.
We laughed it off and let by gones be by gones
and walked towards charles group of friends at the bleachers.
Once class was almost over,
we went outside to goof around and talk with one another.
I had my iPod at the time and started to take pictures of all of us
and charles started to pose like he was a model to make us all laugh.
Everyday i started to grow interest in Charles
and we started to become good friends through our friend group
and spending everyday together in class.
I heard from a mutual friend that he was looking to be in a relationship
and I was too shy to talk to charles about dating,
so one of our mutual friends decided to take it into her own hands
and yell it out in the multipurpose room while we were learning how to line dance,
that I liked him.
I was so embarrassed to be turned down and my fears became my reality
when charles said,
“Awe… thank you that is very sweet of you, but I don’t like you in that way.”
I automatically got defensive and acted on my hurt feelings and said back,
“ Eeewww I dont like you like that either!”.
We continued to be close friends for a couple months,
but one day I was told by a someone that charles was telling a prospective guy
that was interested in me that I was off limits and he wasn’t allowed to date me.
Come to find out it’s because Charles started to have feelings for me.
I started to get the hint
so I decided to give it another try and called him after school one day
and began to flirt with him and he started to goof around flirtatiously
and that’s when we started to message each other back and forth romantically
instead of just being good friends.
Charles was not the kind of guy to have a serious relationship, most kids didn’t at our age. December 7th on a rainy day, after school he came up to me and grabbed my hand declaring how much he really cares for me. I took a picture of him and we walked towards the cafeteria where my choir rehearsals were going to be. When we turned the corner, he stopped me. He told me how he loves spending his time with me and how he has never had these feelings for anyone else and kissed me outside and it felt like it was just us two and no one else.
Our first kiss was magical and it’s true what they say about you can feel the sparks when you meet the one you’re supposed to be with. From that day forward we spent every day together, he walked me to every single class, we fell asleep on the phone together, spent summers together and apart from each other, and we grew up together.
Charles would pick flowers for me and we would write love letters to one another every day before class. I have our love journal where I have kept all of our gifts to one another and from time to time we look through it to reminisce our highschool days where it all began. We were each other’s first love, first date to homecoming dance and senior ball, gave each other promise rings to promise forever sophomore year, became dog parents to our sweet Bailey girl our Junior year of Highschool, walked down to get our diplomas as we celebrated to a big accomplishment we did together, moved to a different city to start out lives as adults, became parents to our unborn child, grieved many trials in our life together and celebrated so many happy moments we created.
We are each other’s family and we push each other to grow as a team. We have always known we would spend our lives together and will forever be soulmates. When I look into Charles eyes, I see a man that holds his heart on his sleeve and tries his best to be the person he can be. I see our future in his eyes, and he was the only person to be there for me when I didn’t have anyone to catch me.
Now we are counting down the days till I walk down that aisle, and we get to say I do to each other for the rest of our lives united as one. I prayed to god every night that i would have someone by my side that loved me unconditionally and was my best friend. Now I thank God every day that he answered my prayers, because I am truly the luckiest women to have such an amazing person stand by my side and share this beautiful life with.
Through all the good times and the hard times we are each other’s rock
and I would never change that for the world.
We are each other’s best friend and we can’t wait to say I do, for as long as we live!
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The wedding was called off for a few months while the couple did their ‘due diligence’
to be sure that they were good to go…
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A Luv Story Blessing – Born in 7th Grade
“Everything that has happened… Had to”.
We have infinite potential from the ‘here now’ and on…
As much intensity that this wee bump in the road may have caused…
It was really the ‘Right Effort” that was required to put into the Deep considerations,
that this most important decision honestly requires.
To do one’s ‘due diligence’, to the full considerment of
committing to this big stage of one’s life,
is a very important and necessary contemplation of ‘Mindfulness’
that really should be considered at one’s most deepest place.
This process is deeper than the awkwardness it briefly created.
Perhaps it wasn’t love at first sight in 7th grade…
At that age most kids are still trying to shake the “Cooties” myth.
The metaphysical manifestation of the fear of social backlash
resulting from association with the opposite sex.
Two years go by and still it was like
“eeeeooooh, I don’t like you like that either!”.
But, even at that age,
there must have been an awkward feeling…
A feeling just the opposite of what was said.
It didn’t take all that long when December 7th came along
and those true feelings couldn’t help but to come thru.
The classic high school sweethearts…
Promise rings & High School dance…
Growing in love & life… together.
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The Blessings of Marital Bliss evolve along with us.
As we Grow up through the stages of our humanity,
we can also learn to Wake up to the bigger picture of Life
and our place within the timeless wonder of it All.
Sharing these fundamental building blocks of what builds
the Character we create as “ourselves” …
This is how we learn to understand ourselves.
No others can really know ‘you’ beyond the story about ‘you’
that plays out in life.
But when you’ve grown and learned together,
You not only learn more about yourself,
You learn more about your Soulmate.
This kind of connection goes deeper than just a feeling…
It’s more of an experience that comes from your core, your center…
You share a connection that radiates from the Ground of your Being.
You see the Natural Spirit of Divinity in each other.
You have experienced many challenges,
And many more are sure to come… that’s life.
Yet,
realize that there are no challenges that can ever be directed at,
the True Nature of your Being, your Natural Spirit of Divinity within.
We can still be happy on a shitty day,
Practice this daily and there will be no bad days.
Your True Love for each other
is beyond the effects of all materialist ‘things’.
Love has no substance of its own, it can be broken,
and certainly not affected by trivial materialistic concerns.
See the perfection is all that ‘Is’…
Experience a contentedness in the ever-present moment.
Do this together and you will abide in Eternal Maui Marital Bliss.
