What first attracted each of you… and what was the ‘glue’ that made it stick?
Stacy-
I was a bartender in a local sports place that was known for having
great wings and having every sport on its 98 televisions.
We had a lot of regulars and when Tony first started coming in,
I was attracted to his looks, kindness to the elderly, along with his ability to listen.
He seemed to have a great work ethic.
I believe wholly in the work hard play hard attitude.
I had just finished my undergraduate, bought a house, and had started graduate school.
He was a landscaper and worked outside.
This was May 2015.
I got up the nerve to ask him out about 8 weeks after first meeting him,
he started coming in almost daily.
He canceled our first date in July but surprised me one afternoon the following week
when I was out trying to care for my yard.
I had an extension cord that just was not quite long enough
to reach the corner to edge the weeds.
Ya see,
he was texting me and said he was driving in the area.
I text my address and ran frantically inside….
Next thing I know I was inside changing my shirt and
throwing on deodorant only to hear him knocking on my patio door!!
Oh my who comes to someone’s back door??
He was trying to peek inside
but it was so hot and sunny he had his hands in L shape looking through my door.
We sat and talked from 2pm to 9pm that day drinking red wine.
We got to really know each other the next couple months.
Next thing I know it is September
and I had planned a big solo vacation celebrating my 4th decade of life.
I wanted, no, I knew I had to include this guy.
I was falling for him in a way I had never felt before. It was definitely love!
The glue?
I feel like that has to be answered in the next question about overcoming challenges.
I think that is my glue, our glue.
We have been through ups and downs
and are both a little guilty of mistakes,
but we know that we do not want to be apart,
or with anyone else in this life.
Any challenges that had to be overcome that ultimately
made your love and appreciation stronger.
Well do we count ex-wives as a challenge.
She sure has not made this easy for either of us.
Tony has 2 children with her, and it has been difficult for a long time.
I have made my peace with knowing she will never be a nice genuine person,
and that is ok.
She moved them across the country for a year out of spite,
they are back now,
but it was really hard for him.
Watching him try to overcome difficult times
just makes us grow stronger together.
Goals as a couple, Personal goals… professional goals… and perhaps
Spiritual goals insights and Inspirations…
Our goals together include strengthening our communication bond,
and traveling.
Every time we talk about our future,
it seems as if we include trips, learning how locals live
and opening our minds to other ways of living.
My goals personally are to remain healthy;
I do want to stop smoking and live a little simpler.
Work is stressful and demanding. I do like my job,
and plan on climbing that ladder as I continue my journey.
I’ve only been with the company for 3 years and probably take on too much.
I like staying busy and proving to my upper management
that I can handle several projects.
I recently put in for a promotion that I eventually did not get.
Now I see this as divine intervention, and I forecast better opportunities.
Tony inspires me to be better, to actually care, and to slow down.
I love him for that reason and many more.
He was unsure in the first few years,
said he did not want to remarry,
I’m not sure what changed his mind,
but I can feel his love for me
and that is what matters the most to me in this whole wide world.
I deserve love.
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The following is a snippet of how I feel about my soulmate, Stacy.
My attraction to Stacy began with her overwhelming sense of care.
As our relationship has matured,
her caring compassion continues to shine and is the force that keeps me motivated,
in large part,
the reason I look forward to waking up and going to sleep with her every day.
Stacy looks at the bright side of every challenging situation –
whether it’s our furnace going out, one of the cars breaking down,
or our basement flooding because the main drain was clogged with tree roots,
she keeps her chin up.
These instances together have certainly had their share of frustrations
but has at the same time made our love and appreciation for one another
grow into a trustworthy, confident relationship.
Furthermore,
our couple goals are much the same I feel – travel the world together
to experience different cultures, be homeowners,
and keep a life journal of our personal experiences together.
We continue to work on and grow each of our professions,
sharing our daily highs and lows with one another about our work life and goals,
growing our love and strength through these experiences –
I’m so looking forward to being Stacy’s life partner, best friend, lover, and
biggest fan for the rest of my life.
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A Luv Story Blessing of Being Each Other’s Biggest Fan
We all deserve to really experience Love,
And to be each other’s biggest fan,
That is the fulfilling feel of Bliss. Love is our Divine Right…
but not in a Catholic church 1970’s sort of way 😉
Finding one’s true love in a bar is typically a very long shot…
How many countless drinks would one have to consume,
while waiting for Mr. or Miss. ‘Right’ to come along?
But being at the helm of the bar,
Stacy had the means to filter out heaps ‘mr wrongs’
And it only took a bottle or two of red wine
to see the timeless wonder in each other’s Being
a Namaste of Soulmates were Realized 😉
Tony had peered into his destiny on that hot & bright day
Perhaps Tony has these magical ‘L’ shaped goggles
That helped him find the True Love he was Destined to find.
When ya hit 40 :-O
Sure, ya get a wee bit older and all…
But you also get the Wisdoms associated with
Transcending the challenges Life has thrown your way…
It’s great to celebrate these hard-won Wisdoms with your True Love
The reward of waiting 40 years to finally find
And
A genuine appreciation is expressed in the compassion and care
That spontaneously arises creating a cradle of love
That allows both to relax… Knowing that,
All the crazy materialistic hustle & bustle going on ‘outside’ of your
Impenetrable bubble of love
Has no effect on the experience of True Love.
Fulfill your dreams to Travel the world
and connect with our fellow Earthlings
as we did when we sailed for 4 years, 20,000+ miles
and met countless warm-hearted people…
and only one or two ‘fully paved ass-faults’.
The bridge to a more evolved humanity starts with
a Grass Roots envoy of Love.
Connecting with an open heart to all of us,
Will make a better place for us all.
Tony knows and advocates ‘slowing down’.
There is a profoundness in this…
We tend to get wound up to the speed of the fast lane of life,
Which… is part of our way of life…
But,
when the hunts over, the field is plowed,
the sun has set, and the day is over…
Find solace in ‘slowing down’.
Slow down and experience your own inner stillness.
Quiet your monkey mind thoughts and experience your Inner Silence.
Then feel the Boundless Spaciousness that is
Always Already Alright at the Ground of our Being …
Then,
Take this ‘groove’ with you throughout your busy-ness…
Zenfully flow through each action and part of your day.
Take a calming deep breath before taking on
new bombardments of your days activities
Slow your groove down and sync with your Natural Groove…
Let go… and then just go with the Flow.
This is the Natural ‘Way’ the Tao points out,
The Zenful way of expression Zen inspires,
The Mindfulness the Buddha teaches
And most profoundly
Integrated into the main principles of the ‘Centering Prayer’
A deeply contemplative practice that Catholic Abbot
Father Thomas Keating pioneered with slowing down to one’s
Inner Stillness and Inner Silence, the connection and language of God.
This practice of Christian Lecito Divina promotes a Divine Connection.
Thus, your whole day is a ‘Centering Prayer’ to all creation…
All there ‘Is’.
Slow down together and experience
the perfection in the ever-present moment…
You will both enjoy Eternal Marital Bliss.
