To Cultivate A Sense of Presence In Your Daily Life and Find Peace

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I have had a life long curiosity with all things philosophical

As I progressed through life,

I’ve been sharpening my focus towards Spiritual Philosophy.

As a young teenager,

I was curious about certain types of mental phenomena

I became curious to see if there were any practical ways

to learn how to do some of them.

I taught myself to meditate 50 years ago.

This seemed like the first step that was common with

everything I had read about certain psychic phenomena

like clairvoyance, moving objects with the mind,

astral travel and lucid dreaming

I was also inspired with the idea of healing with the mind.

I was able to use some techniques to deal with

the dreadfully horrible migraine headaches I used to have a kid,

and then went further,

to a way to even get rid of the headaches all together.

However,

It became obvious to me that healing others with the mind

was not practical not impossible,

but

the effort required to master this was daunting.

Even those that did sort of master it

it was hit and miss.

The other area I was interested in was astral traveling…

Turns out instead of sitting in meditation and traveling…

I learned how to develop a very interesting form of lucid dreaming.

It seemed to have a similar effect of what is called astral traveling…

However,

Lucid dreaming is all done in the mind during dreams.

Much later in life, I learned the deep end of “Insight” meditation…

the experience goes way and beyond Lucid dreaming or ‘astral travel’.

As fascinating as all that was

Life goes on, and with it

college, careers, opportunities and challenges take precedence.

I did get back into it very deeply in my early 20’s…

I did lots of learning and work with a renowned

meditation teacher and psychic that lived at my apartment.

She taught at numerous schools and even the University of California in Northridge,

and did the major TV appearances like Johnny Carson

The ‘super stars’ sought out her guidance…

Very fascinating things indeed.

Which actually opened up my contemplations

I had thought that reincarnation seemed to make sense,

as this how our conventional minds understand the physical life we live

We all start at babies

 grow up a bit and go to kindergarten,

1st, 2cd… grades, high school and college.

It’s all a liner learning path.

yet,

A Venn diagram illustrating the relationship between Not Self and The Self.

as I would learn decades later that…

the Buddha’s teachings of Anatta – No self...

renders reincarnation as just another misleading projection

that various ‘traditions’ used for distracting ways to encourage aspirants

to put in the ‘Right Effort’ towards Enlightenment.

There is no such thing as reincarnation,

and of course the fantasies of “heaven” and getting a ‘heavenly body’

are even more insidiously distracting to the average person.

However,

After being guided in a very deep past lives meditation,

which required over a year of intense practice

instead of relating to the various past life characters

that were somehow supposed to be me…

I came away from the experience with a completely opposite insight

I strongly felt that instead of me visiting my past lives

I was somehow tapping into the collective conscious.

Which was and still is Ineffable to me

As words can’t begin to describe it and

there is nothing our convention thinking minds can grasp it.

Later down this page,

I’ll mention a meditation process that goes beyond the mind

And that’s a good start.

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After about two years of this intense practice…

Again,

Life moves on.

I used the skills of meditation, goal setting, and visualizations

to help my creative music and studio careers that soon followed.

For 15 more years, I was very successful in those ambitions.

Then,

I started to find a wee bit of time in-between those very long hours of

career obligations to begin reading about Buddhism.

The Buddha was very adamant about NOT wasting one’s time

chasing after the psychic phenomena…

He stated that, the time and effort required to master these

irrelevant amusements

would be better spent towards gaining the full fruition of Liberation

Enlightenment. Self-Realization.

All though my busy creative life

allowed no huge blocks of time I once had for meditation

and chasing these amusing phenomena…

I dropped all curiosities of psychic phenomena

and devoted what little time I had towards this new to me

Path. 

Being fully present,

alert to the now moments of awareness was the key element

that kept popping up in my research to deepen my Practice. 

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It would be another 10 years before I eventually heard about

Ram Dass and his book Be Here Now

This theme was beginning to prove to be a very important part of

deepening one’s Practice.

I would just try to practice in every moment of my daily life

to acknowledge the ever present moments

as the flow of life went by.

Not clinging to the joyful moments, nor avoiding the harsh moments

A sort of Equanimity was being developed.

A monk in an orange robe walking through a forest path.

Being in Nature was my favorite place to…

Just be Here Now.

And it still is to this day.

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Another 15 years would go by before I read Byron Katie’s books.

She accidently became fully Enlightened,

just by the tragic nature her life was being challenged with

She had no spiritual or philosophical background at all

Yet,

Her Enlightening experiences changed her life

and millions of others she has helped along the Way.

Long before I read her books,

I was learning to live by some of the very same perspectives

that she would later outline in her books

And that was,

Being in love with whatever Is…

If you love whatever is…

You’ll never be disappointed.

Also,

Consider this.

When we are upset with how life is going

And we keep getting more upset with it all

We are really having an argument with reality.

If you catch yourself having an argument with reality

That’s a clear sign that if you continue

Straight jackets and padded walls will be in your future.

Sailboat on calm water at sunset with vibrant orange sky.
S/V Hipnautical anchored in Minerva Reef in the middle of the South Pacific

Back in 2007, I sold my house,

quit my $$ cushy Hollywood studio tech gigs

and sailed away from it all.

For about 4 years we sailed all throughout the South Pacific

 from California, to Mexico, to French Polynesia…

all the way down unda to New Zealand

and back around Tonga and Fiji before selling the boat in New Zealand

and flying to Maui Hawaii to try to re-invent a livelihood.

All those years and nearly 30,000 sailing miles

gave me heaps of time to be in the moment

as only nature can offer. 

So far in my life,

I had achieved very impressive creative careers,

created and built a successful recording studio,

worked in many top studios and enjoyed

a very deep guitar music way of life.

Jazz, Jazz Fusion with heavy metal influencing and

producing some very intense recording projects of my own music.

Along with all the bands and other studio work I did.

So far in life,

All I had to do is put my mind to it

And I’d make it happen.

But,

Once the Sailing Adventures of a lifetime were over

And made my new home here on Maui

My struggles and life challenges reared their incessant ugly heads

Each time I’d try to find employment, a new dead end would be met.

I hit many hundreds of such dead ends.

After a while,

I had to find a way to live

 that wouldn’t kill me.

A few years into this endless dead end madness

I decided to put my Practice back into my highest priority.

Life

You can’t give up trying

But,

You can give up giving a shit about materialistic challenges.

This is a street version of

Equanimity.

and basically the definition of ‘Spirituality‘.

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I was determined to find a way through life without it killing me.

Ha!

I know that in life

No one gets out a live 😉

but…

My pursuit to find meaning in my life, all life

and how it all fits together in the timeless wonder of it all…

This pursuit has paid off.

As I now have a fundamental perspective of the big picture.

To start:

One must forget everything they’ve ever been told about

anything.

God, divinity, religions, traditions, and all the make believe belief systems

that just distract and confuse.

Most traditions are a dead-end pursuit of the Ultimate Truths

On account that, within their tradition

they feel they already know everything anyone will ever need to know

With religions

It’s way worse!

Even with reasonable spiritual traditions

that teach the non-dual perspectives like:

Advaita Vedanta, Dzogchen, Tibetan Bon, Buddhism, Tao, sufi…

For the most part,

They all are pointing towards the Truth.

But,

Each tradition will have it’s idiosyncrasies

Which may be a distraction or even a dead end

if one chooses to choose one perspective

and close off the mind to better deeper wider ways

that may arise as one pushes on to the deep end of

the Path.

One big consideration about the Truth

The concepts of an Ultimate Truth can never be adequately put into words.

The Ultimate Truths can only be understood wordlessly through

experience.

It is said that:

Silence is the language God speaks.

So,

The only way to hear the Wordless Whispers of Wisdom

Within your Inner Silence.

During the very deep end of a focused meditation practice,

the mind becomes purified.

In that,

With the disciplines of deep meditation,

all the mind’s sub-minds or sub-consciousnesses

begin to become in line with the meditators conscious intentions.

A fascinating phenomena begins to become a part of ones meditation.

These are the beginnings of entering the highest form of human consciousness.

It is called:

Jhana states.

There are four formal Jhana states,

And

Four formless Jhana states.

To get to these states,

One must go beyond the mind

To the Absolute.

As one deepens this proces¦

The body starts to feel pleasant with no physical distractions…

The mind becomes joyful and a blissful happiness prevails.

This is where the object of meditation, typically the breath

starts to dissolve from awareness

And the formless or objective-less point of awareness shifts to this

joyful, blissful asp…

It feels like love.

Falling in love with this flow is how it starts.

From then on it becomes effortless… and time is of no essence…

Nor is the ego-mind-body involved.

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Everything one does their entire life

is based on the assumption that there is a me€ in there somewhere

that calls all the shots and is in control.

So,

Everyone thinks they are this “I”.

Reinforced every time one thinks:

I am hungry, Iwill get some to eat.

I am angry, jealous, mad, happy

But,

During these deep meditational states,

The reference to this made up imaginary Me

Dissolves.

Whatever senses that are still in our peripherical awareness… still registers

But,

They don’t register to a made up imaginary me.

Book cover titled 'I Am That' with an elderly man smiling.

In Advaita Vedanta, this is called… the I am

Like Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj‘s book:

I am that…

But there’s no I awareness just

is. To find and abide in this

To find this “I am” one has to go beyond the mind…

All our sense organs send their information to the brain,

the brain then adds it’s instinctive biases, filters it further with endless thoughts…

then presents it to an imaginary ‘self’.

so whatever we are finally conscious of is not the original senses…

We only get our ego-mind’s story.

The Path towards Liberation requires that one contemplates

as fully and deeply as possible…

Their True Self.

This is Self-Realization.

In Sanskrit, there is a process called Neti-Neti…

Which means not this – not that

By negative deductions,

one can narrow down the field of possibilities

by determining what is obviously NOT me

I’m not my body the timeless essence of whatever we are

was never born, will never die… it doesn’t live forever

it’s beyond time

I am not my brain

That too is just a body part, along with thoughts it produces.

The brain is of course a very useful part of our body,

along with the intense thought processes

Even our egos,

which are also NOT US,

has been a necessary element in our human growth development

Our instincts is what kept us alive in the mighty jungles of early humanity.

But now that we are a wee bit more evolved

The ego just gets in the way from further evolution and keeps us stuck in Dukkha…

the inherent pain and suffering of life’s challenges.

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As I’ve been deepening my Practice

and began to enter these deep meditation states,

I found that a lot of things in my life needs to be

perceived by a certain perception.

Equanimity must be deep and strong enough

to not allow the chaos of lie to disturb my well being.

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To finally answer the question:

What are your best tips for avoiding wasted time and living a fulfilling life?

The long and intense focus of these Insightmeditations

require that each moment of the day, and even my dreams

must become more of a peaceful blissful flow.

One must set mindful ‘Intentions‘ then not get distracted with trivial things

that take you away from your highest ambitions…

In other words…

Stay on point and don’t waste any of your precious limited time.

My day starts with some Yoda stretches

this is a meditation in itself as one should keep distracting thoughts

out of the now moments…

Only be aware of the bodys feed back.

After this,

I do a very long meditation to gain the Insights of higher consciousness.

Then,

As I go throughout my daily activities

I just try to stay in the moment.

If you like to mountain bike or drive really fast like I do…

Your awareness must be really focused on that task.

To have your mind wandering off to

pine about the past or fret about the future

will have serious consequences.

A wooden bead necklace with a red string on a wooden surface.

I have a set of mala beads.

They are not magical or mystic,

even though seemingly mystic people use them

They are mainly a physical way to remind themselves to focus…

Typically on the breath.

So,

If a particular form of a life challenge that pops up unexpectantly

Slow your breath

and be aware of the most subtlest aspects of the breath…

One’s ‘Prana’, chi or life force also flows with the breath…

Any aspect of the breath including the prana that helps capture your full attention

will help bring you back into the

‘now moment’.

For me,

If my mala beads are handy,

This reinforces that focused effort.

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 Whenever possible, just do one thing at a time.

If you are eating … just eat.

Don’t try to do work, or text or doom scrolling the news.

Also,

The last few hours before bed.

Don’t do work, text, or doom scroll the news.

Each breath, nighttime sleeping or in daily activities

becomes a meditation.

Each breath can take you closer to that Liberating perspective of

Equanimity.

Be fully in the moment, particularly when you get a chance to Be…

In Nature.

Find more time for that.

Not everyone will be inspired to the very deep Insight meditations I describe,

But,

Anyone can do a walking meditation anywhere.

Just walk a wee bit slower so that you can notice each sensation as it

arises… and passes away.

That phrase will become a profound Insight deeper in one’s Path.

As,

All things that arise… will pass away.

Even the thing we normally call…

Ourselves.

Impermanence is one the key teachings the Buddha offered.

To realized that nothing is permanent

And be fine with that

Will go a long way towards the Liberation of one’s Pain and Suffering

that is inherent in this life.

Namaste

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The Start of 2020

Our business was doing great, but we still couldn’t afford to buy a house or a condo. Renting in Maui for another 30 years was not an option we wanted to take. Then, Bobbie Jo suggested we buy a sailboat that is comfortable to cruise and live in. By the end of January, we started looking for our new home.

After a long search, we found our dream boat in Mazatlan, Mexico. COVID-19 was not yet a concern when our boat hunt began, but masks were starting to appear at airports by the time we flew to Mazatlan. Originally, we had planned to get the boat ready as fast as possible to cover a full calendar for the busy wedding season. However, it was apparent our business was going to tank amid the pandemic, and the struggle went on until the end of the year.

Luckily, we scored an awesome condo for only $19 a day at Mazatlan. On the 10th day of our stay, we received the news that all harbors will be closed the next Monday morning. We thought we’d be stuck in Mexico longer, but another sailor advised us to leave before sunrise.

We felt the adrenalin of escaping the Mexican harbor master just before the sun rose that faithful day. The seas were rough as waves were building up in the tight channel that led us to the open ocean. We ended up anchored off an adorable little isle just a mile offshore. We enjoyed cruising to many spectacular anchorages and cute villages on our way to Puerto Vallarta, where we would depart for Maui on May 7. On May 30, 2020, we completed our 24-day passage from Mexico to Maui.