MISERY – 7th Stage of Insights – Part 3 of THE DARK NIGHT

The stage of Misery is characterized by intense feelings of sadness, grief, and loss. Again,

for some who can appreciate what such emotions teach,

there is a redeeming quality to the heartfelt depth of grief and melancholy,

but this tends to be greatly overshadowed by their dark and engulfing aspects.

In Misery,

we are having our whole concept of self and the world as being

permanent, able to satisfy, and even being “me” or “mine”

torn up from the roots, and eroded by

the now undeniable truth of the three characteristics of

impermanence, unsatisfactoriness, and no-self.

There can be enormous grieving in this process.

Those with a broader or more archetypal point of view may feel they have

tapped into the suffering of the world,

like having tapped into the vast universal ocean of sorrow.

We may feel like failures and frauds, as if we can’t do anything right.

We may relive memories of those actions and words we regret the most in life,

undergoing a tour of those times when we most disappointed ourselves

and others.

Be gentle, loving, and forgiving of yourself if this happens.

Wise remorse is key, and will help a lot more than self-pummeling guilt.

A depressed woman sitting in a dark tunnel with her reflection in the water.

We may feel that our meditation and path is all just some sad and dead-end trip.

The hard, unfair, and cruel aspects of life may affect us more deeply in this stage.

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Attention continues to broaden and the center to become more absent.

As things continue to fall apart, clearly demonstrating their

unsatisfactoriness, and their selflessness, this can cause…

DISGUST

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The Progress of Insight

Inspired by Daniel Ingram’s book Mastering the Core Teachings of the Buddha,

With this section “The progress of Insight”

Inspired by Mahasi Sayadaw

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The Start of 2020

Our business was doing great, but we still couldn’t afford to buy a house or a condo. Renting in Maui for another 30 years was not an option we wanted to take. Then, Bobbie Jo suggested we buy a sailboat that is comfortable to cruise and live in. By the end of January, we started looking for our new home.

After a long search, we found our dream boat in Mazatlan, Mexico. COVID-19 was not yet a concern when our boat hunt began, but masks were starting to appear at airports by the time we flew to Mazatlan. Originally, we had planned to get the boat ready as fast as possible to cover a full calendar for the busy wedding season. However, it was apparent our business was going to tank amid the pandemic, and the struggle went on until the end of the year.

Luckily, we scored an awesome condo for only $19 a day at Mazatlan. On the 10th day of our stay, we received the news that all harbors will be closed the next Monday morning. We thought we’d be stuck in Mexico longer, but another sailor advised us to leave before sunrise.

We felt the adrenalin of escaping the Mexican harbor master just before the sun rose that faithful day. The seas were rough as waves were building up in the tight channel that led us to the open ocean. We ended up anchored off an adorable little isle just a mile offshore. We enjoyed cruising to many spectacular anchorages and cute villages on our way to Puerto Vallarta, where we would depart for Maui on May 7. On May 30, 2020, we completed our 24-day passage from Mexico to Maui.